Look, we’ve all been there. You’re 50 pages into a book that everyone’s raving about, and you’re just… not feeling it. The characters are flat, the plot’s moving slower than a snail on vacation, and you’d rather watch paint dry than turn another page. But abandoning books feels wrong, doesn’t it? Like you’re betraying literature itself or something. Well, buckle up, bookworms, ’cause we’re about to dive into the surprisingly complex world of DNFing (that’s “Did Not Finish” for you newbies).
The Guilt Trip: Why We Struggle with Abandoning Books
Let’s be real for a sec. Reading guilt is a thing, and it’s as stubborn as that old ketchup stain on your favorite t-shirt. We’ve been conditioned since kindergarten to finish what we start, especially when it comes to books. Teachers, parents, that one annoyingly well-read friend—they all make us feel like quitting a book is a cardinal sin.
But here’s a thought: what if abandoning books isn’t a sign of failure, but a mark of a mature reader? gasp I know, revolutionary stuff here.
The Case for Quitting: Why Abandoning Books Can Be Good for You
- Life’s too short for bad books: Seriously, have you seen your TBR pile lately? It’s probably taller than you are.
- It’s a form of self-care: Forcing yourself through a book you hate is about as fun as a root canal. Without anesthesia.
- You become a more discerning reader: The more books you abandon, the better you get at picking winners. It’s like dating, but with less awkward small talk.
When to Pull the Plug: Signs It’s Time to Say Goodbye
Okay, so you’re warming up to the idea of abandoning books. But when’s the right time to call it quits? Here are some tell-tale signs:
- You’d rather clean the toilet than read another chapter: If scrubbing porcelain sounds more appealing than turning pages, it’s time to bail.
- You’ve been “reading” the same book for months: If your bookmark hasn’t moved since Obama was president, it might be time to let go.
- You keep “forgetting” to bring the book with you: Your subconscious is trying to tell you something, and it ain’t subtle.
- You’re more interested in your phone than the story: If you’re checking Instagram every two minutes, the book’s clearly not grabbing you.
The 50-Page Rule: A Lifeline for the Guilt-Ridden
Still feeling that nagging guilt about abandoning books? Try the 50-page rule. Give a book 50 pages to hook you. If it hasn’t by then, sayonara! It’s a great book selection strategy that balances giving a book a fair shot with not wasting your precious reading time.
FOMO No Mo’: Dealing with Literary FOMO
But what about that hot new bestseller everyone’s talking about? The one that’s supposed to change your life and cure cancer and maybe even do your taxes? Ah, welcome to the world of literary FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
Here’s the thing: not every book is for every reader. Just because your coworker/best friend/that random guy at the coffee shop loved it doesn’t mean you will. Trust your own taste. It’s okay to be the one person who didn’t finish the “it” book of the moment.
Social Reading Platforms: Your DNF Support Group
Feeling alone in your book-abandoning ways? Fire up Goodreads or join a BookTok community. Using social reading platforms can help you connect with other readers who’ve DNFed the same books. It’s like a support group, but with more literary references and fewer stale cookies.
Mindfulness Techniques for Focused Reading: Give It One Last Shot
Before you officially add a book to your DNF pile, try some mindfulness techniques for focused reading. Find a quiet spot, take a few deep breaths, and give the book your undivided attention for 15 minutes. No phone, no distractions, just you and the words. If you’re still not feeling it after that, then yeah, it’s probably time to bid adieu.
The Liberation of Letting Go
In the end, abandoning books isn’t about giving up. It’s about curating your reading experience. It’s about respecting your time and your tastes. So the next time you’re slogging through a book that’s about as exciting as watching grass grow, remember: it’s okay to DNF. Your next great read is out there, waiting for you to find it.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got a date with my DNF shelf and a guilt-free conscience. Happy reading (or not reading), folks!